Glad you two are blogging, and always nice to read the others....sorry I have not been typing too much...busy busy with karaokeing, and classes and cleaning... I have been reading though...I feel a lot of empathy for Lydia...and I remember when I came to the realization that Gary didn't care about anything until it directly affected him. Then, I used to try to figure out how to orchestrate things to 'affect' him, so he'd see it....never worked very well. But I am probably not much help at the moment, I am torn between missing him, and being glad I am out from under his thumb...